I recently read a book by the only man to have survived alone on a raft at sea for more than two months, Editor of Cruising World magazine, Steven Callahan. In “Adrift, Seventy-six Days Lost at Sea,” Callahan recounted how while slowly starving he dreamt of food, “My body knows what it needs. For hours on end fantasies of sweet ice cream, starchy baked bread, and vitamin-rich fruits and vegetables water the mouth in my mind.”
Reading an account of one man’s survival in the face of sure death was inspiring. My ex-husband is building Callahan’s redesign of “Solo” the very boat that capsized, so he too can take off on a singlehanded sailing adventure across the seas. He believes he could survive as Callahan did, while I’m telling myself I’ll die of starvation if I don’t eat in the next half hour. Sort of puts things in better perspective, don’t you think?
Yesterday I felt hungry all day. I decided it was because I felt trapped. I didn’t have a choice about what or where to eat – I couldn’t leave my house because there were a few inches of ice literally on everything outside , so I did what any normal, sane person would do. I ate. I might want to work on this issue since if I were ever truly in a situation where the food supply was limited I’d hate to think I’d wipe it out in one frenzied day of panic.
I didn’t eat junky stuff, but I did eat far more than usual. For instance I had a wheat bagel, sliced with raspberry honey. I never slice my bagels, and never put anything on them, so that was odd by itself. I have a very regular schedule of hunger, I eat generally around 7 AM, then again around 10 AM, again around 12 noonish, and maybe 4 or 5 PM is dinner. Thursday I had my usual breakfast, then snacks, then more snacks, then a big lunch, then more snacks, then a big dinner. I popped a few chocolates that day as well.
Basically healthy food but it still adds up. I had a mixture I hadn’t had for a long time where I get out a bowl and toss in granola cereal, raw almonds, raisins and carob chips. That sounds nice and healthy but those calories add up. I mentioned last week it was nearly 4,000 calories that day, of reasonably healthy foods, so I proved you can overeat on good food. I also ate two bananas, one on my cereal in the morning and another in the afternoon as a snack, so I wouldn’t faint from hunger, I guess.
I never used EFT that day. Thinking about it later it seems I had a fear of not having enough, of running out, of thinking I’m being controlled by outside forces, and of not having a choice. One thing I did not do that day was berate myself in any way shape or form. I do not say mean things to myself – I never have, except for the occasional, you idiot type of stuff but never in a serious way. I don’t do that, and if you do, stop now. Just stop. If you hear yourself saying something unkind to yourself just stop.
Since I Didn’t Pay Attention To My Hunger, I Ate Non-stop
Next Daily Bite look for my list of my favorite foods and a bit on tracking your hunger levels. I promise to post my hunger level worksheet so you can see that I’m not perfect either. I maintain a reasonable size and shape by eating like what I call a normal person. I don’t obsess about it, and I do overeat sometimes (witness last Thursday), but one overeating episode does not frame my whole day nor does it color my life. It’s not me, it’s just a behavior.
Are You Hungry?
Here’s something I read yesterday that got my blood boiling. It’s supposedly diet advice, but I’d say it’s more of the same nonsense we’re fed in our daily “Celebrity Advice” diet.
“You eat when you’re hungry, and you can eat often,” Paula Zahn disclosed, saying she eats five or six small high-protein “meals” a day.” Here’s the stupid part: “On this plan, my energy levels are so stable … and I never feel hungry.”
Excuse me? First she says you eat when you’re hungry, and she eats five or six times a day. In the next instant she says, you’ll NEVER feel hungry. No wonder people are so afraid of hunger when celebrities and other so called “experts” claim you can eliminate the pesky hunger problem, just by following their diet.
Hunger is Healthy
For once and for all, hunger is a healthy aspect of daily life. Without hunger we would all whither and die. Have you ever truly lost your appetite? Not a lessened desire or “you’re not hungry but you could eat” hunger, but a true loss entirely? Without appetite the thought of food is repulsive; you not only don’t want to eat, you probably couldn’t eat, unless you were forced. That is the situation faced by those under extreme illness conditions and isn’t something I’d wish on anyone.
Since most diet plans are so restrictive, especially compared to what we normally eat, it’s no wonder we become fearful of our hunger pangs. (Please note the word is pangs, not pains). Case in point, The TWA Stewardess Diet which allows you half a grapefruit for breakfast. Talk about hungry!
Starting today, let’s eliminate the the notion that hunger is the enemy. One thing that helps enormously is to feed yourself well. Eat wholesome food more often – you’d be surprised how well it works!
EFT for Hunger, Fear, Loss of Control
Setup: “Even though I’m afraid of my hunger, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though my hunger is so great I’ll consume everything, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I can’t control my hunger, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Round 1: This hunger thing
Round 2: This remaining hunger thing
It only takes a minute, do as many rounds as are necessary to bring your SUD level to a 2 or lower.
What’s EFT? What’s a SUD level? Read One More Bite’s Intro to EFT for Weight Loss materials. It’s very easy to learn and even easier to use.
Some people stop using EFT because it seems too easy, or they are actually getting a good result but then something stops them from continuing. What do you think could be the problem? More issues perhaps? Exactly! When you find yourself thinking, “Oh, I don’t need to do this,” or “This is silly,” or “This is a waste of time, I’ll never…” that’s a perfect opportunity to use EFT on your limiting beliefs.
Do a round of EFT every time you catch yourself in a negative frame of mind and you’ll see the pounds slipping away.
Read about Infamous Hollywood Diets at Shape magazine. Great article!