Instead, try something different this year and stop holiday weight gain.
1. Learn EFT. It’s easy, quick, painless and you can use it all the time for life stresses and more. It helps with eating and weight loss because it relieves stress, and we all know stress leads to weight gain (at least many times it does — some actually lose weight when under great stress). These pages explain EFT and NLP and how they can be used for weight loss, then the last page has worksheets so you can learn EFT basics for weight loss. [links open in new window].
2. Get The Daily Bites. Sent two or three times a week, short lessons in how I use EFT to maintain my 80 pound weight loss and how you can do the same. The Daily Bites – EFT for Weight Loss
3. Start to use EFT daily. I shouldn’t be surprised, but I still am at how many people learn this simple technique and then still don’t do it. That obviously suggests they aren’t really ready to lose weight at all, but hey, use EFT to get over it. Start with “Even though I don’t know if I’m ready to lose weight, I deeply and completely accept myself,” and take it from there.
4. Learn E.A.T: Eating Awareness Training. I’ve included this in Session 5 of the Ending Emotional Eating workshop, but you can adopt the principles simply by paying attention when you eat. Start with your next meal. Sit down. Look at the food. Notice the colors, texture, smells, etc. Be there.
Take a small bite and feel the food in your mouth. Move it around. Chew, suck, nibble, (eating is quite erotic). Don’t be in a big hurry to swallow, savor the brief moment of the food in your mouth, and see what you notice that you hadn’t noticed before. Do this with every single bite for an entire meal and see what happens.
One thing I can guarantee is it takes a long time to do this, so you’ll find yourself wishing you could hurry up, and that leads me to the question: Why do we think so much about eating only to rush ourselves through it? Interesting question anyway.
Take your time with your food. Eat an apple and really notice it. How does it sound when you bite in? Is it sweet? What’s the texture? Do you like that texture or would you rather it be something else? Every variety of apple is different. Get a few and have a tasting party.
When you stop to notice what you’re eating you’ll also experience the sensation of being satisfied and that’s the first step toward learning how to eat like a person without a weight problem.
Remember, it’s perfectly fine to overeat once in awhile, but change from overeating regularly to overeating on occasion, and you’ll start to lose weight. If you gobble your food, you’re likely eating far more than you need simply because you aren’t paying attention to the signals your body gives about being satisfied, content, happy. Give yourself a chance to experience this, just once this week and you’ll discover a whole new world of eating.
5. Think of the holidays as a time for lots of opportunities for your “occasional” indulgences, but the rest of the meals, eat normally (meaning like a sane person). This isn’t your last chance to eat candy, so don’t act like you have to eat it all.
Studies show that having a support system is key in a weight loss program. There are many sites that offer forums and chat, and I participate in several.
This week I hosted my first weight loss chat at at WeightLossBuddy.com (WLB) and it was great! It can be tricky when questions come at you rapid fire, but all-in-all, it was a great time had by all. I’ll likely do more weight loss chats there, so check them out. My site, OneMoreBite-Weightloss also has a chat feature in The Back Fence.
What’s The Back Fence? So glad you asked. The Back Fence is a place to visit your neighbor, and at the OMB site, it’s a place to talk about what’s working for you with your weight loss, new ideas, and learn a trick or two from the veterans who’ve lost weight and kept it off (I lost 80 pounds for 18 years and counting). Yes, it’s a weight loss forum, but there’s more…
Soon I’m starting regularly scheduled chats too, and my helper, Hollis sits in the forum at all times. She’ll chat with you on any topic. If you drop by, she’ll start asking you questions, and it’s fun. She’s learning all the time so soon perhaps she’ll give weight loss advice and suggestions too.
Why Fear & Anger Make us Want to Eat
We have friends who up until a few days ago lived in New Orleans. Last year when hurricanes threatened we asked, “Are you evacuating?” “Yes” they replied and then returned to their city unharmed a few days later. This year it is hurricane season and we can’t reach them. All their contact information, addresses and numbers were located in New Orleans, a city that has suddenly ceased to exist as we once knew her. The fear and anger has reached the boiling point in those of us watching events from the safety of our homes and yet, people who drowned in their homes thought they were safe too. Many are still waiting for someone to please come, and we don’t know if they’ll reach them in time.
We’ve become a country that protects the world but not ourselves, and it’s very frightening. People who live in other Gulf Coast areas are fearful wondering, “Could this happen to us?” If you’ve noticed you suddenly want to eat or that no amount of food seems to be enough, don’t be alarmed, nor surprised. It makes sense given the reports of “no food or water” reaching our ears.
When your sense of safety is shattered, who will pick up the pieces? Even if you had money it couldn’t help get you out of New Orleans right this moment (Sept 3, 2005). Every person still there is on equal footing, but the platform on which they are standing is unstable and crumbling beneath their feet. I play for all the people still waiting and hoping help will come, and wish I could do something, but what can I do?
EFT Borrowing Benefits via Surrogate Tapping
Here’s something we can all do: An EFT sandwich using Borrowing Benefits together with Surrogate Tapping. Both Borrowing Benefits and Surrogate Tapping are well known to those who practice EFT. Here we’ll be combining them to help relieve your anxieties, rage, despair, whatever you are experiencing right now, and also it will help if you’ve suddenly found yourself unable to feel full no matter what you’ve eaten. Living through a horrific event or witnessing others while they suffer creates a hole in our hearts. For many this feels like hunger. It may feel like a gnawing, aching emptiness, but since it’s actually heart hunger, no amount of food can fill you up.
That’s why external events sometimes cause eating behaviors that you may not previously have thought were linked. Everything that happens around you affects how you feel and how you attempt to take care of yourself, and eating is simply a way we take care of ourselves. If you feel you’ve lost control around food, or you can’t get enough to eat right now, don’t despair. When you feel grief stricken, horrified, and helpless you can fill that emptiness with purpose and hope, by doing something proactive such as this exercise.
Note: If you don’t know what EFT is about, read this brief three page introduction to NLP & EFT and it’ll make better sense. Although the OMB (One More Bite’s) tools and examples focus on weight loss, EFT can be used for any issue and is very effective for fears, trauma, anger, sadness, grief, phobias, and more.
What is Borrowing Benefits?
Borrowing Benefits is the term for the happy side effect of getting relief for your issue while tapping along with someone else for their issue. This happens often in groups and workshops. We will all benefit in this way from doing Surrogate Tapping.
What is Surrogate Tapping
“Surrogate Tapping” is doing EFT directly for someone else; they don’t even need to know you are doing it. It’s the type of thing you might use as in, “Even though he’s a crotchety old ….” Many use the Surrogate Tapping technique for animals and pre-verbal infants and toddlers. It is equally effective whether the person is across the room or across the country. I know how ridiculous that sounds, but hey, it’s something you can do and certainly cannot hurt, so why not give it a go?
I propose we all do a few rounds of EFT over the next 24 hours for those still suffering in and around New Orleans and anyone directly affected by the disaster. Millions of people have lost their homes, their businesses and jobs, their lifetime treasures and momentos, photographs, and everything that made any sense in their lives, and their very real horror is alive as electric currents mixing in the air we are breathing right now. I’m sure it will help us individually and may help relieve some suffering outside ourselves as well.
“Even though I know my small voice cannot be heard, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I feel awful, there’s nothing I can do to help, and I feel guilty that I can’t do anything, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though people are starving and I’m eating a steak dinner, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I feel guilty for what I have, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I’m angry (at Bush, the administration, the police, the criminals, the terrorists, my second grade teacher, the world, maybe even God), I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though words cannot begin to describe the depth of my despair, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I just want to eat and I wish I didn’t but I do, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I’m afraid I’ll never get enough food to eat, I can’t seem to fill the emptiness right now, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though the fear is too thick to see through, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”
“Even though I know it’s not my fault, I still feel somehow like I should have done something, and I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Change these words to whatever is happening for you right now, but if you are presently suffering with thoughts of fear, guilt, shame, indifference, whatever it may be, go ahead and do a round or two of EFT on that right now, then later tonight and again tomorrow.
If you were relatively happy until you read this, I apologize. I had so many clients today tell me they were angry, I thought it should be tackled head-on.
See my next blog post on a free tele-class I’m hosting on this subject Sunday and Monday, Sept. 4 and 5.
I am hosting a free EFT for Anger tele-seminar tomorrow (Sunday, September 4, 2005 at 1 PM PST) and again on Monday, September 5, 2005 at 8:00 AM PST for anyone who’d like to do a group session on their fear, anger, disbelief, whatever is happening for you, bring it to the call. Send a blank e-mail to firstname.lastname@example.org for an autoresponder with details of the first call. The same access code and number will be used for the second call as well.
I hope you’ll join me. If you’ve never done a tele-conference, their fun. You just call a number and listen in. If you want to speak, and the moderator (in this case me), has set it up so participants can speak, you can just pipe right up. Depending on the number of participants that can work well or get crazily out of hand. I don’t anticipate a stampede so I do hope some of you will be able to join me. Monday is a holiday, so hopefully a lot of you will be off work and can phone in to listen or add something to the call by speaking up!
There may be an alternative for those suffering from PCOS (Polycystic ovary syndrome), a hormone imbalance that interferes with normal ovulation. Women with PCOS do not have normal, regular menstrual cycles and may have multiple small cysts on their ovaries. The main problem is the hormonal imbalance which affects other body systems, such as the metabolic and cardiovascular systems.
British researchers in The Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism’s February 2005 issue reported that from 10%-50% of PCOS patients are obese. It’s also well known that reducing weight can greatly help alleviate the symptoms of PCOS.
Metformin is often prescribed, a diabetes drug, given to reduce the chances of miscarriage. Metformin itself does nothing for weight loss.
Xenical versus Metformin for Weight Loss
This excellent article by WebMDHealth.com reports on a study done with PCOS sufferers to see whether Xenical may help them lose weight and relieve other symptoms, including excess testosterone. Results showed those taking both drugs found a reduction in testosterone, significant because excess testosterone is largely why women with PCOS have side effects such as excess facial hair and have difficulties with conceiving and carrying a child to full term.
This is very good news, especially if Xenical also helps with weight loss, since even a small drop in weight can also help alleviate PCOS symptoms.
The side effects of Metformin which are reported at a 30% or greater include: diarrhea, gas, nausea, vomiting, loss of appetite, bloating. Yuck. That doesn’t sound so sweet. Three out of 10 is a pretty significant number in my book.
If you suffer from PCOS, it may be worthwhile to ask your doctor about trying Xenical.
For riveting game play, try the Yoshinoya game, a Japanese PS2 game about running a Rice Bowl shop.
For more info go to the Yoshinoya Home Page. That page will ask if you want to install the Japanese character set, which isn’t necessary unless you like the pretty characters or can read Japanese.
I noticed at Target the other day there is a whole display of wacky Japanese toys. Little smiling bobbing head things (they are solar so will bob forever) and virtual pets galore! I was strangely attracted to them too, so I had my son check them out and while he was wild about virtual pets when he was in grade school, now at 17 he wasn’t at all interested.
I did buy the Cat Woman Barbie doll that day, so I must have been in the toy buying mood.
Looks more like an S/M Barbie to me. She even comes equipped with a whip for crying out loud. I just need a suitably clad Ken to complete the set!