Do You Check Your Progress After One Day?
Yesterday I decided to “get back in shape,” and today I’m already checking in the mirror to see if there’s a difference. Sound familiar? Everything else is instantly obtainable from dinner to video-on-demand, so why should this take so long? It adds up to weight loss frustration, since it can never happen fast enough.
What’s For Dinner?
Remember when we had to decide in the morning what to fix for dinner because it took all day to thaw anything out? Today most people don’t know more than 20 minutes in advance what they’re going to eat for most meals.
How long did it take you to gain the extra weight? Have you been overweight your entire life, yet now you expect to lose it in a matter of weeks? Have you had emotional issues since childhood but now you think a day or two of effort should be all it takes? It takes time to make a change, so give yourself a break. Accept that it will take time and relax. Even though you’re in a hurry, each minute passes like the minute before, each hour, each day, each week. Time passes, whether you make a change or not. Why not make a change and notice yourself getting more fit as time passes?
Here are some EFT ideas regarding “How Long Will This Take?” or “Why is this taking so long?”
“Even though this is taking too long, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I wish the weight was gone, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I can’t wait for results, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I’m sick of this stupid weight, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I want this done and over, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
It only takes a minute to do a round of EFT so do as many rounds as are necessary to bring your SUD level to a 2 or lower.
Some people stop using EFT because it seems too easy, or they are actually getting a good result but then something stops them from continuing. What do you think could be the problem? More issues perhaps? Exactly! When you find yourself thinking, “Oh, I don’t need to do this anymore,” or “This is silly,” or “This is a waste of time, I’ll never lose the weight so why bother …” that’s a perfect opportunity to use EFT on those limiting beliefs. Use your own words to figure out what to say:
“Even though I don’t see why I should have to keep doing this, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I think I look silly, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though this is stupid and a waste of time, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I’ll never lose this weight, and I don’t know why I bother trying, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Do a round of EFT every time you catch yourself in a negative frame of mind and you’ll soon find you have less and less of those moments.
For reference, here is an article posted on the Emofree.com site regarding Dr. Carol Look’s work with overweight patients. Note, this case reflects their work together over a four month period: http://www.emofree.com/addictions/twentyfivepounds.htm
Many people call and ask me, “How long will this take,” as if we were removing a mole from their finger. This is a lifelong process – start now, and within six months to a year you can be either at your goal or so much closer than you’ve been before. Plan to do something every day to work toward what you want, and plan to move away from those behaviors you’d like to leave behind, a little at a time. Small changes build up over time to create big results.
Long standing emotional issues may take many months to resolve – so what? It’s like the 17-year old who worries that medical school takes four more years after college. “That’s eight years!” they cry. Yes, that does seem like a long time, but that time will pass whether you attend school or not; the time will pass whether you do something about your emotional issues, or not. I’ve just received an invitation to my 30-year high school reunion. That eight year commitment doesn’t seem so long to me now.
Commit to giving yourself a year to achieve the goals you want for yourself. Then break that year down into months, weeks, days, and then just take it one day at a time. Most of those who take my eight week course end up saying how quickly the weeks fly by; many ask for more time. If you think of it as if you’re taking a class at college, then you’re more likely to commit to the daily exercises (homework) and do what is necessary to achieve a passing grade (get a result). It’s up to you – take the tools you’ve been given and start to use them. Do it today. You deserve to feel better, right now.
“Even though I don’t think I deserve to feel good, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
(I’m not worthy)
“Even though I can’t take this much time all to myself, I deeply and completely accept myself.” (Everyone else comes first)
“Even though I’m too busy to do all this, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
(I don’t have time – maybe I’ll do it later)
No matter what your issues or doubts, use EFT on them, and you’ll find as time passes, so will your difficulties, until you reach the point you are able to either ask for help (from me or someone else) or you are able to help yourself.
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