Best Time to Start a Weight Loss Program?

When is the Right Time to Get Started?

Most people start a new “plan” on a Monday. This is to give themselves the chance to get ready, as if they are starting a race. Think instead of starting a new eating plan as beginning a hike or climb – you are going to take one step. It can be today, it can be tomorrow, it can be in the middle of the day (new concept!). You’re taking just one step, not the whole trip.

That first step isn’t so difficult unless you’ve decided you are going to make drastic changes, especially if you are trying to avoid all the things you like the most. That plan won’t work for the long-haul, and can be part of the reason you find it difficult to get started, or you keep “getting started” over and over.

If I’m trying to convince myself I’m never going to do something ever again, I know it’s a lie, and it will be much harder to make the real commitment. Instead take it easier and just choose one habit you’d like to change, one food, one day of the week. Think in terms of small changes; eating three pieces of fudge instead of the whole pan for instance.

But What About the Holidays?

Are you sitting in the fence because the holidays are approaching? “I don’t want to be dieting at Thanksgiving.” “I can’t diet now, I have cookies to bake.” Oh, the excuses. They run so fast this time of year, don’t they? Just chase them right out of the room. Excuses are like asses, we all have one, just some are bigger than others.

There’s no better time than right now to get started on the path to lifelong freedom from a weight problem. I enjoy the holidays, I love to bake, I eat all the goodies, and I don’t gain weight. Read how I made the mind-shift one Thanksgiving Day and lost weight without dieting. That was the turning point for me, and all I did was decide I was going to eat until I was satisfied, not gorge myself but eat all I wanted, eating slowly, enjoying every bite.

I was going to make a point to taste what I was eating. The turkey wasn’t going to jump up and run away, I didn’t have to rush and get it over with. I wanted to enjoy the meal and the company fully, instead of groaning in pain a half hour later.

Have you ever been so full you thought you’d burst and just then someone says, “Who wants pie?” “I do!,” most of us say, thankful we wore an elastic waistband. Deciding to enjoy but not overdoing it means when that question arises you know if you want dessert now or would rather wait a bit. It’s not a crime to wait 30 minutes or an hour. The pie is not going to float away, and if you are worried it will be gone, then you’re eating out of a fear of scarcity, which at my house just is not a problem. We generally have about half a pie per person, easily, not counting all the other goodies.

That one Thanksgiving dinner changed my life. I still remember how awestruck I was when I realized I felt wonderful, satisfied, full, and I’d eaten everything I wanted. I waited until I felt hungry again (hunger returns, yes it does), and then I ate again, and I’ve eaten tens of thousands of times since then including many more Thanksgiving dinners.

The holidays are a great time of year – this year let’s enjoy them more fully.

EFT suggestions for the Holidays

The holidays can be a time of year fraught with emotional ties. If being with your family distresses you, start now to lessen the emotional intensity and you’ll breeze through the holidays this year. If you know certain people will push your buttons, practice now.

“Even though I hate the holidays, I deeply and completely accept myself.”

“Even though my family makes me crazy, I deeply and completely accept myself.”

“Even though last year Aunt Edna said I looked fat and why didn’t I stop eating, I deeply and completely accept myself”

“Even though I know my husband’s wife Big Bertha is going to give me ugly looks and say mean things and I just wish I could stuff a big sock in her mouth, I deeply and completely accept myself.”

Don’t worry if you have tag-on thoughts while you are tapping. I often do. Things like, “Aunt Edna is a cow,” come to mind. Sometimes things you might think but would never say in polite company are quite appropriate while doing the tapping. These thoughts may make you smile, even laugh out loud, and that’s a good thing. It’s okay.

Keep Your Issue In Mind

The main thing is to keep your issue in mind while you tap (that’s why you keep repeating the reminder word or statement). If the emotional intensity is present (even though it may be muted) while you are tapping, then you will release the intensity of the emotion and interrupt that well worn pathway (the path is the regular routine of upset; how just thinking of an event can make you upset for instance). Don’t be afraid to bring up the issue you want to release.
That’s how EFT works.

(These are general ideas – if you can plug in specific names, places, events, it works all the better.)

Now is the right time – start now. Use EFT on your holiday issues. If you need ideas, send me a note. Have fun with it, give it a go and let me know what happens.

The Dry Cleaners Shrunk my Pants Again!

Shrunk jeansShortly after Christmas I went to wear my favorite jeans – the green pair (I’m a redhead so I can wear green jeans if I want), and to my dismay I found they were suddenly too small! Now, how’d that happen? I’d owned them for a long time and washed them numerous times but my thoughts quickly flew to, “That stupid laundry. I must have used hot water or something. Dang.”

Isn’t it curious how we place the blame for things like clothes that won’t fit on someone or something else? It’s never our fault. Not that our body has expanded. Oh, no. That couldn’t be. The denial regarding our own habits is astonishing.

The Clean Clothes Diet

Slowly, without thinking about it, I melted off those extra pounds and inches, and now the pants fit again. Wonder of wonders, isn’t the magic of laundry fantastic? I call it the clean clothes diet. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.

Now that we’re into February those excuses blaming holiday eating are done. If you gained a little weight (or failed to lose any) over the holidays, get over it. It’s done. Today is a new day. Don’t waste one moment thinking about why or what you should have done – the “blame game” gets you nowhere fast.

Instead, use what you’ve learned (that is, what didn’t work) to go forward with your new plan and find what does work. Plan to start today, and work on today only. It’s great to have long-term goals but they are always accomplished by taking little pieces and working on them one at a time. By creating a strategic plan, and working it, step-by-step things get done. That’s how the U.S. built the Mars Rover. We reached the stars by taking it one day at a time, and that’s how you’ll reach your weight loss goals.

One Day at a Time: One Bite at a Time

I wore those green jeans yesterday and they still fit so I wasn’t dreaming. (This isn’t Mr. Green Jean’s jeans, but plain old green jeans). It’s the magic of healthier habits. Some years I don’t gain weight during the holidays and others I do. You are not like the Mars Rover being guided through life with someone else at the controls. You are holding the controller. It’s your choice what you eat every day.

The Super Bowl of Eating

Super Bowl Sunday
Second only to Thanksgiving Day, Super Bowl Sunday is the biggest eat fest of the entire year. It’s not about turkey and dressing but snacks, snacks, and more snacks. “Get your hot-n-spicy wings while you can for tomorrow we diet,” they cry.

Not a Fan but I get in on the Eating

I’ll admit, I’m not a sports fan — don’t throw things — it’s just that I’ve got too many other things going on and don’t have time for watching games. I know, it’s un-American, in fact the political police may just pay me a call now that I’ve admitted I don’t watch the Super Bowl. If I hear everyone cheering I might peek in for a minute or two though, I’m not stupid.

Doesn’t mean I don’t think about having a Super Bowl party though. My husband joked he’d have a big bowl of rice and invite everyone over (he eats primarily a Macrobiotic diet). I bought an enormous sandwich that I don’t know who will eat. I’ll have some but frankly, this thing is huge, and the bread? It’s about 6 inches thick. I’ll have to use a knife and fork. But it’s Super Bowl Sunday and ever I am in the party mood.

Speaking of a knife and fork, did you know you can drive a teenager insane by eating pizza with utensils? It’s true, try it.

The eating today is “party eating” to the extreme. Finger foods, greasy, dippy stuff. Fun food. On my “Calendar of Excuses” this is a red-letter day. I’ll bet the Sweet Potato Queens go all out today.

How you handle a food fest says a lot about your potential to kick your weight issues out of your life forever. Go ahead and eat, enjoy, and do not for one tiny second feel guilty or mad at yourself. A party day is for enjoying yourself. Don’t gorge – that’s not necessary. There’s always the next meal. This won’t be your last chance to eat chicken wings, even if you’ve resolved to start a diet tomorrow.

What’s the difference between stuffing yourself and gorging? To me gorging means stuffing it in as fast as you can because you’re afraid there won’t be enough. Gorging is out-of-control, frantic wanting and no matter what, it’s never enough.

Stuffing on the other hand simply means you’re full, and you’re still reaching for more. Stuffing is a choice, gorging feels as if you’re choice has been taken away.

Today, while you’re eating, or tomorrow if you’re reading this after the Super Bowl of Eating, just know you’re okay even if you’re overeating. Some occasions call for it, some days you just feel like it. It’s okay. You’re okay.

Feeling okay with your choices goes a long way toward getting you past the sticking points – sometimes can even lead to a decision to make better choices. It’s what you do the majority of the time that matters, not the occasional overindulgence.

I gained weight over the holidays because I ate chocolate much more often, and I ate desserts more often, and I over ate much more often, so naturally, I gained some weight. Now it’s a month later, and nothing changed except I went back to my usual eating habits and now that weight is gone. Easy and painless.

BTW, I still have a few chocolates left over, my favorite Joseph Schmidt truffles. Why haven’t I eaten them? I ate so many over December and the first week of January that I grew satisfied. I know they’re there, and I think about having one occasionally but I’m usually already full or don’t feel any hunger, and I’d rather wait for hunger. Then what happens when I do get hungry, I think of real food, not chocolate, so there they sit. That can happen to you too when you start to listen to what you’re body wants and stop being afraid to eat an apple or an orange. Fruit is good, fresh is good, clean food is good. Try eating for appetite control. It works, and you just might like it